There was a housewife who has 4 boys. Affairs shopping, laundry, meals, cleanliness & tidiness home can be handled properly. The house was always neat, clean & orderly and her husband and her children greatly appreciate the dedication it.
There's only one problem, the mother of these cleaners is not like a dirty rug in his house. He can explode and angry because of prolonged only see the shoe print on the carpet, and the atmosphere bad will take place all day. In fact, with four boys at home, it is easy to occur and tortured him.
On the advice of his family, he went to a psychologist named Virginia Satir, and told him the problem.
After listening attentively to his mother, Virginia Satir smiled & said to her mother:
"My mother's mother please close your eyes and imagine what I would say"
The mother was then closed his eyes.
"Imagine the mother's house neat and clean carpet expands mother, spotless, no dirt, no trace of shoes, how the mother's feelings?"
Keeping a close eye, smiling mother was broke, a glum face brightened. He seemed pleased with the shadow he saw.
Virginia Satir continued: "That means no one at home mom. No husband, no kids, no joke heard their cheerful jokes and laughter."
"The house mother was quiet and empty without the people who loved women".
Instantly the mother's face turned cloudy, his smile disappeared, his breathing contain sobs. His feeling shaken. His thoughts immediately anxious to imagine what was happening to her husband and her children.
"Now look back carpet, shoes & mother saw traces of dirt in there, meaning husband and the children's mother was home, the people who love mother was with her mother and their presence warmed the hearts of mothers".
The mother began to smile again, he felt comfortable with the visualization page.
"Now open the eyes of the mother" Mom opened her eyes
"How, if dirty carpet is still a problem for the mother?"
Mom smiled and shook his head.
"I know you mean" said the mother, "If we look at the right angle, then the things that seem negative can be viewed positively."
Since then, she never again complained about the carpets are dirty, because whenever I see traces of shoes there, he knew, his beloved family at home.
The story above is a true story. Virginia Satir was a famous psychologist who inspired Richard Binder & John Adler to create an NLP (neurolinguistic programming). And techniques that he used above is called reframing, that is how we 'reframe' corner
our view that something that had a negative can be positive,
one way to change the angle of view.
Attached some examples of changing points of view:
I THANK;
1. For wives who say tonight we eat only instant noodles,
therefore
it means he's with me not with others
2. For the husband is just sitting lazily on the couch watching TV,
therefore
meaning he was at home and not in bars, cafes, or in place of wickedness.
3. For children who are noisily complaining about many things,
therefore
means they are at home and not become street children
4. For credit card bill is big enough,
therefore
means I have to work to pay mortgage
5. For ex-party trash and dirt should I clean it,
therefore
that is surrounded by many friends of our family
6. For clothing that start narrow,
therefore
means I have enough to eat
7. For fatigue, tired and exhausted at the end of the day,
therefore
means I am still able to work hard
8. For all the criticism I've heard about the government,
therefore
means there is still freedom of speech
9. To sound a loud alarm to wake at 5 am who I am,
therefore
means I can still wake up, still alive
10. For ff ...
There's only one problem, the mother of these cleaners is not like a dirty rug in his house. He can explode and angry because of prolonged only see the shoe print on the carpet, and the atmosphere bad will take place all day. In fact, with four boys at home, it is easy to occur and tortured him.
On the advice of his family, he went to a psychologist named Virginia Satir, and told him the problem.
After listening attentively to his mother, Virginia Satir smiled & said to her mother:
"My mother's mother please close your eyes and imagine what I would say"
The mother was then closed his eyes.
"Imagine the mother's house neat and clean carpet expands mother, spotless, no dirt, no trace of shoes, how the mother's feelings?"
Keeping a close eye, smiling mother was broke, a glum face brightened. He seemed pleased with the shadow he saw.
Virginia Satir continued: "That means no one at home mom. No husband, no kids, no joke heard their cheerful jokes and laughter."
"The house mother was quiet and empty without the people who loved women".
Instantly the mother's face turned cloudy, his smile disappeared, his breathing contain sobs. His feeling shaken. His thoughts immediately anxious to imagine what was happening to her husband and her children.
"Now look back carpet, shoes & mother saw traces of dirt in there, meaning husband and the children's mother was home, the people who love mother was with her mother and their presence warmed the hearts of mothers".
The mother began to smile again, he felt comfortable with the visualization page.
"Now open the eyes of the mother" Mom opened her eyes
"How, if dirty carpet is still a problem for the mother?"
Mom smiled and shook his head.
"I know you mean" said the mother, "If we look at the right angle, then the things that seem negative can be viewed positively."
Since then, she never again complained about the carpets are dirty, because whenever I see traces of shoes there, he knew, his beloved family at home.
The story above is a true story. Virginia Satir was a famous psychologist who inspired Richard Binder & John Adler to create an NLP (neurolinguistic programming). And techniques that he used above is called reframing, that is how we 'reframe' corner
our view that something that had a negative can be positive,
one way to change the angle of view.
Attached some examples of changing points of view:
I THANK;
1. For wives who say tonight we eat only instant noodles,
therefore
it means he's with me not with others
2. For the husband is just sitting lazily on the couch watching TV,
therefore
meaning he was at home and not in bars, cafes, or in place of wickedness.
3. For children who are noisily complaining about many things,
therefore
means they are at home and not become street children
4. For credit card bill is big enough,
therefore
means I have to work to pay mortgage
5. For ex-party trash and dirt should I clean it,
therefore
that is surrounded by many friends of our family
6. For clothing that start narrow,
therefore
means I have enough to eat
7. For fatigue, tired and exhausted at the end of the day,
therefore
means I am still able to work hard
8. For all the criticism I've heard about the government,
therefore
means there is still freedom of speech
9. To sound a loud alarm to wake at 5 am who I am,
therefore
means I can still wake up, still alive
10. For ff ...
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